This post was written as a follow-up to some reactions I received about this post on struggling with the Military Spouse stereotype.
Dear Military Spouse,
Somewhere a long the line it all went wrong. You were told you had to be strong, to take care of the home front while your Service Member did their duty. You were told to keep it together, the magazines, the blogs they all told you how to be perfect. But your life wasn’t perfect. How did they do it? How did they make their lives perfect while you sit here in tears wondering how it all went so wrong? Where was the idyllic dream milspouse life you tried so hard to create?
It’s not perfect. Nothing is.
They tell you that your feelings make you weak, that to be strong you must never show them.
Dear Military Spouse, that’s just not true.
Your emotions, your feelings, they don’t make you weak. They make you strong.
Sharing your innermost feelings with your friends, or even on a blog like this is hard. You risk reactions that can harm you, you open yourself to others and risk pain. There is always that chance when you open yourself up like that. In doing so you claim your power. You are strong, because you seek to share your burden. You are strong because you reach out to others, in doing so, you give them hope. You show them that it is okay to feel that way. You empower them to embrace their feelings and show them that they are not alone.
Speak, and find the choruses of “Me Too!” and know that you are not alone.
Speak and find solace from those who have gone through the same thing.
Speak and find the wisdom and knowledge to overcome your burdens and hardships.
Speak and find your voice.
Speak and be free.
Speak and be strong.