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I awoke with a lingering migraine. Not terribly unusual, I’d been up late, unable to sleep after an argument with my husband. Combine that with the stress of it the argument and it’s a sure fire combination to trigger a migraine for me. I drug myself out of bed to make my usual morning coffee, gentle caffeine, the life-giver, and vanquisher of weak headaches, and find something to eat. I felt miserable.
I didn’t want to feel miserable though. I was tired of feeling that way.
I moped at the terribleness of it all as I sipped my coffee over light Facebook browsing and downed some Excedrin Migraine. I looked dully at my computer monitor. I had hoped today would be a good day. I wanted it to be one. The sun was shining and the weather was perfect. Yet here I sat in my dull, sad cocoon of sorrow. “I could change it,” I thought to myself. I could make this day better. But how? My jeans, the ones I hadn’t worn since my husband got back from deployment years ago, the ones that I couldn’t fit into. Maybe…maybe I could fit into them now? I’d lost 15 pounds, surely they fit now!
They did fit, if just, and my butt looked great in them too. Thank you, squats, thank you. Now, to find my favorite shirt. Yes. Perfect, and now? Makeup! I never wear it, unless it’s for an important event. But isn’t feeling good an important event? Yes, just a bit. Some mascara, perfect.
I looked at my reflection in the mirror. “I’m going to have a good day, no matter what,” I thought to myself. You know what happened?
It was hard at first, but as the day went on it got easier. I listened to my favorite music on repeat, I lit a candle, and enjoyed an indulgent extra coffee and attacked my day with a renewed effort to kick some ass and take some names. Why? I deserved it that’s why. I deserved to be happy, successful, and fulfilled. I didn’t want to just sit around and wallow in my own sadness and situation. I knew I had more in me than that, at least I hoped I did when I took the first tiny step and rolled my unhappy self out of bed.
Have you ever had a day like that?
Where just getting out of bed seems like the hardest thing in the world? Where the world is so set against you it would just be easier if you stayed safe and warm in your cocoon of blankets and slept until the day passed you by?
You don’t have to settle for that. Those sappy memes about choosing how you feel? Yeah, I didn’t believe it either. But that whole fake it until you make it? It kinda works. Somehow I tricked myself into being happy. It worked. You can too.
Seize the day.
Don’t let the day slip by you. You can change how you feel, you can make it better than it was when you started out. It’s hard, and you’ll find all sorts of reasons to resist. You don’t have to listen to them. Start with the little things, use them as building blocks. Little things that make you happy, together they form one pretty darn good day. So wear your favorite outfit, put on your favorite music, watch your favorite show, eat your favorite food, do your favorite activity, talk to your favorite people. Do the things that make you happy, and one by one let go of your self pity, let go the sadness, and embrace the things around you right now that you do have to be happy about.
You’ve got this. You’ve got the power to make that change. So go get it. Make it happen.
Important Note: There is a difference between having a bad day and being depressed. If you are feeling hopeless, please reach out! There is help, and you don’t have to continue feeling this way. Depression is a serious medical condition that should be treated by professionals. If you think you suffer from depression, anxiety or any other mental issue please discuss it with your PCM or counselor. Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness, but of strength.